I have this theory that the popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey isn’t about sex at all. Sure, it’s a fantasy - but not a sexual one. Those are some seriously stilted sex scenes, and almost anyone who has been reading for any length of time has read better ones.
The fantasy of Fifty Shades of Grey (and other books like it, because yes, this book does have ancestors) is about two things:
1. Money. Ever notice it’s always tall, dark and rich? The guys in this kind of romance are never poor or even middle class. They’re always rolling in dough. It’s always a rich, powerful man with a woman who has considerably less money and influence than he does. He always showers her with expensive gifts, etc. It’s less about romance than it is financial security. Someone smarter than me could probably make an interesting connection to the work of Jane Austen (whom I like very much) which is a much earlier (and smarter) depiction of moneyed romance/love as financial salvation.
2. Male Validation. Christian Grey isn’t some cutie that Anastasia meets in a coffee shop or who sits beside her in class - he’s the most powerful, the richest, the least attainable, the most mysterious - or at least he’s supposed to be. And he picks her. Women are still very much told to find worth through the eyes of men. If Christian Grey like Ana, then she must be special, right? Her self worth is so tied up in this idea.
So yeah, some of the popularity probably comes from selling kinkiness to a largely vanilla audience. But in a world where you can google any kind of porn you like I can’t believe that womankind was waiting around for E.L.James to tell them what to fantasize about. It’s about the lies we’re told, that are sold to us, from a very young age. Growing up a girl puts some toxic shit in your head. And if that toxicity is never purged or even questioned - well, hello there, Mr. Grey.
And thus, the entire appeal of 50 Shades of Grey is exposed. Perfectly put.
I always said the porniest part is how he orchestrates her getting a beyond her wildest dream job three months out of college.
Fifty Shades of Grey is dumb as hell, poorly written and problematic. But I can’t ever get myself to completely write it off because it is a Twilight Fanfic/Porn for Girls that became a bestseller. Idk. That’s brilliant to me, despite everything else.
No matter what forum you go to post your ASOIAF thoughts, it is heartwarming to see that Tumblr, Reddit, and Westeros.org all rally together to hate on D&D for their portrayal of Loras in the show.
We are united in our disappointment
REBLOG IF YOU WANT CURIOUS ANONS
- harry potter: you're the weak one. you'll never know love, or friendship. and i feel sorry for you.
- voldemort: i came out to have a good time and i’m honestly feeling so attacked right now
Game of Thrones. Really good out cutting out the fat in Martin’s writing. If it’s female.